Most of us do not know HOW TO BE HAPPY. We search for happiness outside. “No one can be happy for you ——YOU’VE GOT TO FIND HAPPINESS WITHIN YOURSELF”. Most of us feel happy, when we are praised or when our needs and desires are fulfilled. We feel sad, when our expectations are not met or our ego is hurt. Does our happiness depend on others ? No, and those who know that, will live happily in all situations —favourable or unfavourable.
At a party, a lady asked her friend whether her husband made her happy. This is what she asked, “You always seem to be happy. Does your husband look after you so well ?” The husband, who was quite near to hear the question, paid attention to the conversation. He had always been a good husband. So he knew that his wife would answer in the affirmative. However, to his surprise, the wife replied, “No, he doesn’t make me happy”. The husband was horrified. He couldn’t believe his ears. She continued, “No, he doesn’t make me happy. I MAKE MYSELF HAPPY. The fact, that I’m happy or not, doesn’t depend on him, BUT DEPENDS ON ME. I make the choice —–to be happy in each situation and in each moment o my life. If my happiness were to depend on my husband, other people or things or circumstances on the face of this earth —–I WOULD BE IN SERIOUS TROUBLE”.
Everything that exists in this life, changes continually : people, wealth, emotions, behaviour, body, climate and choices, and if you depend on these factors ——YOU WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. The wife continued, “I decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of experiences or circumstances. It’s not the responsibility of my husband to make me happy. he has his emotional us and downs, and when I see them not being compatible with me, I remain silent and do not react negatively. Despite everything, I love my husband and he loves me”.
Unknowingly, we give the remote control of our happiness to others around us, to the situation that we face, to the amount of money we earn. But what we forget is that only we have the ability to bring happiness into our lives. BEING HAPPY is an attitude towards life and each one of us must decide whether we want to stay happy, temporarily in phases or we want to stay happy perpetually. WE NEED TO FIND HAPPINESS WITHIN OURSELVES.