“In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be present. —- Lao Tzu.
How does you day begin ? Do you rush through the day multi-tasking ? TAKE A BREATHER. Happiness lies in the small moments, not in the rush of things. Bernadette Noll, mother of four and author of SLOW FAMILY LIVING advises families to slow down, connect and enjoy a life together. When she asked people how they wanted their family to be 10-20 years down the line, most of them said they wanted communication, connection and a relationship that lasts forever. Is it that simple to build a bond in our time ?
Clinical psychologist Dr. Seema Hingorrany says, “No, it isn’t easy. You need to pause and ponder what you actually want for the family. You should be always present and create a connection — not just on holidays, when you have a lot of time, but even in the busy day-to-da life when prioritising may seem difficult. Demanding jobs, managing household chores, travelling in chaotic traffic, managing children’s lives and demands —— families today are busier than ever. The hectic pace leaves many parents and children feeling disconnected. That ‘disconnection’ is worse than a disease, and, in many it leads to both depression and silence due to no emotional engagement.
Since there is never enough time, sticking to deadlines becomes your only priority, and when you look back, you realise that your life has passed by at such a fast rate that you can’t keep track of the days, weeks or months. Should we slow down ? Relationship expert Rajan Bhonsle explains, “Slowing doesn’t mean doing everything at a snail’s pace. It means finding love and comfort in the confines of your home.” Susan Sachs Lipman, in her book, FED UP WITH FRENZY talks about slow parenting and its benefits. Studies have proved that families that spend time together when their children are young, tend to have a stronger bond and are happier later in life. Bhonsle says, ” Children do need to work hard to become achievers, but that doesn’t mean childhood becomes a race. Give your children time and space to rest, relax and spend fun time with the family. Bringing up a child is not a project, but a journey.” Same goes for life.
How To Make Time For Family(1) Make dropping children to school fun.(2) Keep enough room to breathe between activities.(3) Find a family hobby.(4) Don’t overburden your child.(5) Make the most out of dinner time.(6) Mark ‘family time’ on your calendar.(7) Have a ‘no electronics’ day.(8) Pause before you RSVP.
If you hasten the speed of life for convenience, you will lose out on the small moments that make for a happy family. SLOW DOWN & LIVE LIFE.