Learning to love yourself is the first critical step to take to strengthen your ‘self-worth’, ‘self-respect’ and ‘self-confidence’.
Essentially ‘loving yourself’ means knowing who you are and accepting it fully and it is said you must be able to truly love yourself before you can truly love someone else. Not loving yourself may mean that you will have a deficit in self-confidence, which could cause you to unconsciously push people and opportunities away from you and you won’t even notice that, because you are caught up in believing you are unworthy.
Principally, your struggles might stem from the fact that at some point in your childhood ——- you were hurt ——- and by blaming yourself for being the cause of this hurt, carrying this burden consequentially shaped your personality to ensure that you would never be vulnerable enough to experience that hurt again. Circumstances constantly change, you grow up and people around you mature, you no longer have a reason to be apprehensive.
If you don’t love yourself, you will never be able to truly experience the infinite joy of giving and receiving love. The more you love yourself and draw on the infinite source of love from within your own heart, the more your heart expands and you begin to experience love and happiness.
Loving yourself is not about believing that you are perfect, it’s about discovering your authentic self, your passion, what gives your life meaning and purpose for “YOU”, not for someone else. Do not be critical and judgmental about yourself, let these thoughts pass by and leave you only with feelings of great compassion for yourself. Love yourself NO MATTER WHAT. On the surface, this might seem selfish, but those who fill up their own well first, have the most to give others, you only truly obtain self-love by having compassion for the self.
Look at the people and situations in your life right now. What do you see ? What/who do you like ? See if the people/situations you don’t like reflect something about you. We can’t change what we are not aware of and don’t acknowledge. Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is rather the presence of fear, with the willingness to face it. You will be amazed at how the universe steps in to support you when you follow your heart. An excellent way to begin is to do something loving for yourself. When you treat yourself with ‘kindness’, it makes you feel good. The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness. Just learn to love yourself every day, NO MATTER WHAT.
—— Jai Madaan