CAN YOU REALLY DESIGN YOUR LIFE ? IS IT THAT EASY TO CREATE A NEW BLUEPRINT FOR A LIFE THAT YOU ARE SO USED TO ?
Just start by believing that the obstacle in the path to your life goals can be overcome. Designing life is about acquiring a certain skill set that motivates you towards your life goals. As the late Steve Jobs, had famously said, “Design is a funny word. Some people think design means how it “looks”. But of course, if you dig deeper, it’s really how it “works”. Essentially, it means there’s a lot that you can design about your life. Whether you are in your 20s, 40s, 60s or 80s —— you can empower yourself to make life changes.
In fact, these days, there’s an entire industry to help you design your life. You could hire a life coach, join a ‘design your life’ boot-camp or enrol in MIT or Stanford’s ‘Designing Your Life’ course for “bold immediate action”. ‘Designing Your Life’ teach that passion isn’t an inherent trait, it can be developed. They believe that instead of thinking you’ll start something when you get to so-and-so point, you can start right now. And most importantly, no problem can be solved if you think there isn’t any problem. Be truthful, accept and challenge your fears head on. It is in this crucial area that most people falter.
Professor David Mindell asks his MIT students to pick an area of life they have difficulty in designing, and start working on it. “If your desire is to ‘run’ —— go running every week at least three times. Once you have mastered one challenge, set another”, he says. Sarod player Amaan Ali Khan says, ” The formula is simple. Learn to take up challenges, develop personal integrity by keeping the promise and don’t fall into the ‘excuses trap’. That can be fatal.”
Corporate guru Azim Jamal says,” Your vision is derived from your life purpose. It is essential to apply a sense of balance in life. The big stumbling blocks to your life plan can be inconsistency, lack of self-discipline and bad habits.”
For designer Puja Nayyar, designing clothes and designing life require the same skill set. Be focussed, don’t be confused and you may actually get more than what you desire. A formatted life can lead to more happiness.
So, how do you make big and small changes in your life plan ? “We need to ‘doubt our doubts’, live our life with trust and faith. Don’t be a victim to your self-developed belief system. Break out of it. That’s how you can be the designer of your life”, says life coach Warren Stagg.
Without your soul and heart, making a life blueprint will be just another project —– to make it really work, make a diary of your progress. Says Mana, soul coach,” Life is something new each day. Allow yourself to receive. We receive when we hold expansive beliefs, such as, ‘I am improving every day in every way’. Heart without action is a daydream ; Action without heart is a nightmare”.