Each year’s regrets are envelopes in which messages of hope are found for the NEW YEAR. ——— John R. Dallas Jr.
Take a radical reboot to get past this year’s bad memories and negative experiences, and thus free you soul. Yearends can be the perfect time for emotional makeovers. Wrap up your emotions —— give yourself some sort of closure as 2015 comes to an end. It is easier said than done, but be sure to not take the emotional baggage into 2016.
Renowned German psychologist Carsten Wrosch and professor of psychology at the University of Columbia, Gregory Miller, stressed the importance of learning to ‘let go’. Wrosch said, “Bitterness can be triggered by events that are associated with feelings of unfairness, which make people feel like the victim”. Latching on to this feeling for too long is hazardous to the mind and body. This, creating ‘year-end rituals’, both ‘celebratory’ and ’empowering’, becomes a necessity.
Wrap it up, de-clutter your emotions, release the bondage which perpetuates negative emotions, and release the clouds of negative attachment, and practise the art of forgiveness, and thus we can bring happiness to others and ourselves.
Closure is a personal process. So, how does one go about wrapping memories and emotions that refuse to leave us ? Psychologist Sonali Gupta feels that the first step is to accept that we don’t have control over some things. Next, pen down your experiences or channelize grief into an art form like poetry, dance or painting. Be thankful for every moment, and this exercise of gratitude allows us to continuously seek and appreciate positive experiences as compared to holding on to the negative moments. Lastly, do not forget to exhale to release the tension.
Italians throw out old things out of their windows every New Year’s Eve. On December 31st, people walking the streets actually have to look out for falling objects. In Ecuador, people make dummies, stuffed with straw, to represent events of the past year. These ANO VIEJO or “effigies”are burned at midnight, symbolically getting rid of the past. In Spain, people put 12 grapes into their wine at midnight. The grapes represent the months of the year ahead. At the stroke of midnight, after raising a toast, people eat the grapes as quickly as possible, making a wish on each one. In Japan, OSOJI or “end of year cleaning and purification” in offices and homes is quite common. This ritual welcomes the TOSHIGAMI-SAMA (God of the New Year).