It is a well known fact that no growth, be it personal, professional, domestic or spiritual, can take place without a “peaceful mind-set”. A peaceful mind-set is directly related to our behaviour and attitude. Unfortunately, not many people bother to check and control them.
** Do not interfere in other people’s matter / business. We usually offer unsolicited advice, irrespective whether our advice is welcomed or whether we are even qualified to offer advice on an issue. This is often annoying to others. It does not end there, as we also tend to monitor the implementation of our advice, embarrassing people and brewing negativity against ourselves.
** Do not crave recognition. This creates an expectation from others and the rule of expectation is that it never gets fulfilled. So, in the end, we are dejected.
** Do not be jealous of others. Most people are not happy with what they have and keep craving for more. The focus is always on what they do not have. So, they tend to be jealous of other people who appear to be better off. The cause for jealousy could be anything from looks to intellect, name, fame, riches, house, car, prosperity and position. We should consciously make an effort to be happy with what we have . We must realise that what we get in life depends on our individual karma. We must accept everything that we have as gifts from God and know that He is the best judge in these matters.
** Grasp the best and leave the rest. All around us, we have a duality of people, things and situations. The duality is “good” and “bad”. Generally, our focus is on the bad aspects of people, situations and things, hence we land up grasping only the “bad”. If we start grasping only the “good” from our surroundings, we would be the happiest people around. One particular example that often finds mention in spiritual literature is that of the “lotus” —– how it blooms amidst all the dirt around. It is aware of all the dirt around it, yet it just absorbs whatever it needs to from the dirt for its own growth. Similarly, we are surrounded by all kinds of people, but it is entirely up to us to absorb the good for our own growth without constantly trying to change our circumstances.
Pointing out flaws repeatedly acts as negative affirmation in the other person’s mind and instead of changing for the better, the other person feels dejected. Another outcome of repeated fault-finding could be strained relations and friction. The other person will avoid our company rather than listen to constant criticism.
——– Sadguru Rameshji.