Raj Raghunathan, the author of : If You’re So Smart, Why Aren’t You Happy ?, was asked why smart people aren’t happy. His free online course, A Life of Happiness and Fulfilment was rated the best MOOC of 2015.
His answer to the above query : First, some of the very things that make one smart and successful —— a tendency to over-think, to want the best out of any situation, to e driven —— come in the way of happiness. Second, because we aren’t educated on what it takes to lead a happy and fulfilling life, everyone, including the smart-and-the-successful ——— commit many of the same “happiness sins” (like not giving happiness a high enough priority) that the not-so-smart-or-successful commit.
The next question : Some smart people still manage to lead lives that are fulfilling and meaningful. Isn’t it ? —- He said, the question is, What are these people doing that’s different ???? They do two things that are different. First, they seem to pursue a different set of goals : goals that are more conducive to enhancing happiness ——– like prioritising relationships over status, or experiences over material possessions. Second, you discover that their attitude to life is different. They are somehow better able to roll with the punches. This attitude is rooted in an implicit belief that life is good, and that good thins are going to happen to you ——— what is called an “abundance mind-set”. Both the above-mentioned things can be learned. And the better news is that adopting these tings will actually not just make you happier, it will also make you a better human being and more successful at work, particularly if your work involves creativity and managing people.
He says further : Unhappiness, or more accurately, a sense of dissatisfaction, has long been acknowledged as being fundamental to the human experience. That is why we have always had a very deep interest in the topic of happiness, all the way back from the Buddha to Aristotle down to the modern-day scientist. Being an unhappy person is far more difficult than it is to deal with one. An unhappy person has to live with himself / herself 24-7, you only have to do it for a few hours a day. So, an attempt at understanding why someone is unhappy, and if you can help them, may be worthy of consideration.
So, it is important to take the time to be nice to yourself. Charity begins at home, and if you are not happy with yourself, you won’t deal so well with unhappy others.
So, check out this free online course :www.coursera.org/course/happiness.