Practise forgiveness instead of revenge. Almost every day of our lives, we face some kind of bad experience, and that is inescapable. One has two options : either ignore it or try to take some counter measure. The first option is a form of forgiveness, while the other amounts to seeking revenge. WHICH IS THE BETTER OPTION ?
FORGIVENESS is the better option, for it is based on a proven formula for saving yourself from even worse experiences. It is an instant solution to any problem. On the contrary, TAKING REVENGE is bound to complicate the problem. While forgiveness can buy time, taking revenge only wastes time without any benefit.
In such a situation, people are generally prone to place the onus for the predicament entirely upon others. The better plan is to examine one’s own rule in the affair. At many times in our lives we are faced with two kinds of choices —– ANTI-OTHER thinking and PRO-SELF thinking. Anti-other thinking makes you descend to the brute level, whereas pro-level thinking elevates you to a higher plane of human behaviour.
If ‘forgiveness’ is a ‘full stop’, ‘revenge’ is punctuated by ‘commas’. Forgiveness maintains ‘positive thinking’ while revenge fosters ‘negative thinking’.
Some would argue that forgiveness does not always work, and that it is better to adopt the ‘tit-for-tat’ policy. Forgiveness puts an end to the problem once and for all, whereas the tit-for-tat policy only aggravates the problem. Psychological studies show that every being is born with an ego and an conscience.. The tit-for-tat policy arouses the EGO of the other party, whereas if you follow the policy of forgiveness, it will activate the other person’s CONSCIENCE. And it is a fact that in controversial matters, the CONSCIENCE ALWAYS PLAYS A POSITIVE ROLE.
Forgiveness and revenge are two different moral cultures. The culture of ‘forgiveness’ helps in the building of a healthy society, whereas a ‘revenge’ culture rules out the growth of a healthy society.
——- Maulana Wahiduddin Khan.