Anger is not your enemy

“Don’t try to destroy your anger, transform it into constructive energy,” says THICH NHAT HANH. 
To sit is not enough.  We have ‘to be’ at the same time.  To be what ?  To be is to be a something, you cannot be a nothing.  To eat, you have to eat something, you just cannot nothing.  To be aware is to be aware of something.  To be angry is to be angry at something.  So, to be is to be something, and that something is what is going on : in your body, in your mind, in your feelings and in the world.
THICH NHAT HANHWhile sitting, you sit and you are.  You are what ?  You are the breathing.  It is like a television set of 1 million channels.  When you turn the breathing on, you are the breathing.  When you turn the irritation on, you are the irritation.  You are one with it.  Irritation and breathing are not things outside of you.  You contemplate them in them, because you are one with them.
If I have a feeling of anger, how would I meditate on that ?  How would I deal with it ?  I have to deal with my anger, with love and tenderness, with non-violence.  In Buddhism, we do not consider anger, hate, greed as enemies we have to fight, to destroy, to annihilate.  If we annihilate anger, we annihilate ourselves.  If we deal with anger in that way, we would be like transforming ourselves into a battlefield, tearing ourselves into parts, one part taking the side of Buddha and the other part taking the side of Mara.  If you cannot be compassionate to yourself, you will not be able to be compassionate to others.  When we get angry, we have to produce awareness.
THICH NHAT HANH imageIn the case of a minor irritation, the recognition of the presence of the irritation, along with a smile and a few breaths will usually be enough to transform the irritation into something more positive, like forgiveness, understanding and love. Irritation is a destructive energy.  We cannot destroy the energy, we can only convert it into a more constructive energy.  Forgiveness is a constructive energy.  Understanding is a constructive energy.  Suppose you are in a desert, and you only have one glass of muddy water.  You have to transform the muddy water into clear water to drink, you cannot just throw it away.  So you let it settle for a while, and clear water will appear.  In the same way, we to convert anger into some kind of energy that is more constructive, because anger is you.  Without anger, you have nothing left.  That is the work of meditation.
Here is an example : A big brother gets angry at his little sister at first, and later finds that se has a fever and he becomes concerned, and he tries to help her.  So the destructive energy of anger is transformed into the energy of love.  Meditation on your anger is first of all to produce awareness of anger, I AM THE ANGER, and then to look deeply into the nature of anger.  Anger is born from ignorance, and is a strong ally of ignorance.
————————THICH NHAT HANH 
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Tips to control your anger

tumblr_m2s3hj2bWR1r5hkgio1_400There’s a saying ANGER IS ACTIVE SADNESS; SADNESS IS PASSIVE ANGER.  Having quoted that, I will further say that anger is a sign of mental weakness and ends in repentance and remorse.  If you can control anger, you will have limitless energy in your reserve.
How do you control anger ?  Pray.  Be alert.  Observe silence daily for an hour.  Forget and forgive.  See God in all.  In the morning, meditate on the virtue of patience.  Remember the Gita shlokas, describing anger as a monster and the gateway to hell.   if you find it difficult to control your anger, leave the room, go for a walk, drink some cold water.  Repeat ‘Om Shanti’ 10 times, your anger will subside.  Never give vent to anger, meditate often and thus you will acquire inner spiritual strength.
Food has a great deal to do with irritability.  Avoid foods that make you irritable.  Take milk, fruits, moong-ki-dal, curd, spinach, barley, groundnuts and butter-milk.  The Prana entwines the mind like a creeper.  Pranayama leads to control of the mind.  It will also give you abundant energy to check your anger.  If provoked, stop, keep quiet and measure your words before you utter them.  ‘Think before you speak’, that is something you should keep in mind.

Anger

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ANGER is an emotional response to one’s psychological interpretation of having been threatened.  Often it indicates when one’s boundaries are violated.  Some have a tendency to react to anger through retaliation.  Anger may be utilised effectively.  Shiela Videbeck, describes anger as a normal emotion, that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation.

Raymond Novaco of UC Irvine, who since 1975 has published a plethora of literature on the subject, stratified anger into 3 modalities :–COGNITIVE ((appraisals), SOMATIC-AFFECTIVE (tension and agitations) and BEHAVIORAL (withdrawal and antagonism).  William DeFoore, an anger-management writer, described anger as a PRESSURE COOKER : We can only apply pressure against our anger for a certain amount of time, UNTIL IT EXPLODES.

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ANGER may have physical correlates, such as increased heart-rate, blood-pressure and levels of adrenaline.  The English term, originally comes from the term anger of OLD NORSE language.  The external expression of anger can be found in facial expressions, body language, physiological responses and, at times, in public acts of aggression.  Un controlled anger can, however, negatively affect personal or social well-being.  It is said : ANGER is ACTIVE SADNESS; SADNESS is PASSIVE ANGER.—–Anger (Arabic —GHADAB ) in Islam, is considered to be instigated by Shaitan.  Islamic teachings also state that anger hinders the faith (iman) of a person.  In Buddhism, anger is defined as : being unable to bear the object, or the intention to cause harm to the object.  It is a DESTRUCTIVE EMOTION.  In Hinduism, anger is equated with sorrow as a form of unrequited desire.  In Catholicism, anger is counted as one of the seven deadly sins.  In Judaism, anger is a negative trait.

ANGER QUOTES : —–

(1) Beware of him that is slow to ANGER; for when it is long coming, it is the stronger, and the longer kept.  Abused patience turns to fury. —–Francis Quarles.

(2) ANGER is a killing thing: it kills the man who is angry, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before —it takes something from him.—–Louis L’Amour.

(3) Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech —you will ever regret. —–Ambrose Bierce.

(4) Holding on to ANGER, is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; YOU ARE THE ONE WHO GETS BURNED. —–Buddha.

(5) Anybody can become Angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way —that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. —Aristotle.

(6) In times of great stress and adversity, its always best to keep busy, to plow your ANGER and your energy into something positive. —–Lee Iacocca.

(7) For every minute you remain ANGRY, you give up 60 secs of peace of mind. –Ralph Waldo Emerson.

(8) Bitterness is like cancer.  It feeds upon the host.  But ANGER is like fire, it burns it all clean. —–Maya Angelou.

(9) ANGER is an acid, that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored, than to anything on which it is poured. —–Mark Twain.

(10) ANGER and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. —— Mahatma Gandhi.

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(11) ANGER is never without a reason –but seldom with a good one. —–Benjamin Franklin.

(12) When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings.  Then you will forget your ANGER. —–Epictetus.

(13) When ANGER rises, think of the consequences. —–Confucius.

(14) ANGER dwells only in the bosom of fools. —–Albert Einstein.

(15) ANGER is a wind that blows out the lamp of the mind. —–Robert Green Ingersoll.

(16) Keep cool: ANGER is not an argument. —–Daniel Webster.

(17) ANGER, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it. —–Seneca.

(18) Be modest, humble, simple.  Control your ANGER. —–Abraham Cahan.

(19) There is nothing wrong with ANGER, provided you use it constructively. –Wayne Dyer.

(20) Hatred is inveterate ANGER. —–Cicero.

(21) ANGER cannot be dishonest. —–Marcus Aurelius.

(22) ANGER is an expensive luxury, in which only men of certain income can indulge, —–George William Curtis.

(23) ANGER is as a stone cast into a wasp’s nest. —–Pope Paul VI.

(24) ANGER is a short madness. —–Horace.

(25) The greatest remedy for ANGER is DELAY. —–Thomas Paine.

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anger_quoteDON’T BE ANGRY :

(1) If an evil comes and creates a disturbance, you should hold your peace. You must not angrily upbraid him; then he who has come to curse you will merely harm himself.—-Sutra of Forty-two Sections

(2) There are three ways of handling anger ; By EXPRESSION, by SUPPRESSION and by FORGIVENESS. The right way to overcome anger is BY FORGIVENESS.——Dada J.P.Vaswani.

(3) All anger is about something which has already happened. Is it of any use getting angry about something which you cannot alter ? ————Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.

(4) The best fighter is NEVER ANGRY.—-Laozi.

(5) The fly cannot be driven away by getting angry at it.—–Idoma Proverb.

(6) It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh AT THE SAME TIME. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.—-Wayne Dyer.

The five vices to be shunned…

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The five forms of violence come from five vices.

(1) LUST—which destroys all purity and power in the soul.  People lust for money and power.  It is an addictive and obsessive desire to seek happiness and self-worth by indulging in things that destroy the inner powers and dignity of the soul.  All clarity, sensitivity, love and truth is destroyed.

(2)  ANGER— is a fire that burns oneself and others around.  It is like acid that eats away at the soul.  It blunts our discernment and make us react irrationally.  Anger leads to destructive behaviour.  Anger is active sadness.

(3) GREED—makes a person poor and empty inside, as he is always chasing desires.  Greed lads to corrupt practices.  A greedy person is never satisfied and always wants more and that can lead to an imbalance and exploitation of man and nature.

(4) ATTACHMENT—is the root of all suffering.  It comes from a need to feel supported.  Attachment keeps one entangled in the web of MINE and so it makes a person selfish, petty, narrow-minded.

(5) EGO—is the subtlest enemy of the soul.  An egoist is totally disconnected from self-respect.  An egoistic person is always insecure and seeks attention.  He is in delusion and is influenced by praise and defamation.  Thus the soul violates its true nature of PEACE, JOY, LOVE and POWER.

———Rajyogini Dadi Janki.