“Don’t try to destroy your anger, transform it into constructive energy,” says THICH NHAT HANH.
ANGER is an emotional response to one’s psychological interpretation of having been threatened. Often it indicates when one’s boundaries are violated. Some have a tendency to react to anger through retaliation. Anger may be utilised effectively. Shiela Videbeck, describes anger as a normal emotion, that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation.
Raymond Novaco of UC Irvine, who since 1975 has published a plethora of literature on the subject, stratified anger into 3 modalities :–COGNITIVE ((appraisals), SOMATIC-AFFECTIVE (tension and agitations) and BEHAVIORAL (withdrawal and antagonism). William DeFoore, an anger-management writer, described anger as a PRESSURE COOKER : We can only apply pressure against our anger for a certain amount of time, UNTIL IT EXPLODES.
ANGER may have physical correlates, such as increased heart-rate, blood-pressure and levels of adrenaline. The English term, originally comes from the term anger of OLD NORSE language. The external expression of anger can be found in facial expressions, body language, physiological responses and, at times, in public acts of aggression. Un controlled anger can, however, negatively affect personal or social well-being. It is said : ANGER is ACTIVE SADNESS; SADNESS is PASSIVE ANGER.—–Anger (Arabic —GHADAB ) in Islam, is considered to be instigated by Shaitan. Islamic teachings also state that anger hinders the faith (iman) of a person. In Buddhism, anger is defined as : being unable to bear the object, or the intention to cause harm to the object. It is a DESTRUCTIVE EMOTION. In Hinduism, anger is equated with sorrow as a form of unrequited desire. In Catholicism, anger is counted as one of the seven deadly sins. In Judaism, anger is a negative trait.
ANGER QUOTES : —–
(1) Beware of him that is slow to ANGER; for when it is long coming, it is the stronger, and the longer kept. Abused patience turns to fury. —–Francis Quarles.
(2) ANGER is a killing thing: it kills the man who is angry, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before —it takes something from him.—–Louis L’Amour.
(3) Speak when you are angry, and you will make the best speech —you will ever regret. —–Ambrose Bierce.
(4) Holding on to ANGER, is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; YOU ARE THE ONE WHO GETS BURNED. —–Buddha.
(5) Anybody can become Angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way —that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. —Aristotle.
(6) In times of great stress and adversity, its always best to keep busy, to plow your ANGER and your energy into something positive. —–Lee Iacocca.
(7) For every minute you remain ANGRY, you give up 60 secs of peace of mind. –Ralph Waldo Emerson.
(8) Bitterness is like cancer. It feeds upon the host. But ANGER is like fire, it burns it all clean. —–Maya Angelou.
(9) ANGER is an acid, that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored, than to anything on which it is poured. —–Mark Twain.
(10) ANGER and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. —— Mahatma Gandhi.
(11) ANGER is never without a reason –but seldom with a good one. —–Benjamin Franklin.
(12) When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your ANGER. —–Epictetus.
(13) When ANGER rises, think of the consequences. —–Confucius.
(14) ANGER dwells only in the bosom of fools. —–Albert Einstein.
(15) ANGER is a wind that blows out the lamp of the mind. —–Robert Green Ingersoll.
(16) Keep cool: ANGER is not an argument. —–Daniel Webster.
(17) ANGER, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it. —–Seneca.
(18) Be modest, humble, simple. Control your ANGER. —–Abraham Cahan.
(19) There is nothing wrong with ANGER, provided you use it constructively. –Wayne Dyer.
(20) Hatred is inveterate ANGER. —–Cicero.
(21) ANGER cannot be dishonest. —–Marcus Aurelius.
(22) ANGER is an expensive luxury, in which only men of certain income can indulge, —–George William Curtis.
(23) ANGER is as a stone cast into a wasp’s nest. —–Pope Paul VI.
(24) ANGER is a short madness. —–Horace.
(25) The greatest remedy for ANGER is DELAY. —–Thomas Paine.
(1) If an evil comes and creates a disturbance, you should hold your peace. You must not angrily upbraid him; then he who has come to curse you will merely harm himself.—-Sutra of Forty-two Sections
(2) There are three ways of handling anger ; By EXPRESSION, by SUPPRESSION and by FORGIVENESS. The right way to overcome anger is BY FORGIVENESS.——Dada J.P.Vaswani.
(3) All anger is about something which has already happened. Is it of any use getting angry about something which you cannot alter ? ————Sri Sri Ravi Shankar.
(4) The best fighter is NEVER ANGRY.—-Laozi.
(5) The fly cannot be driven away by getting angry at it.—–Idoma Proverb.
(6) It is impossible for you to be angry and laugh AT THE SAME TIME. Anger and laughter are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.—-Wayne Dyer.
The five forms of violence come from five vices.
(1) LUST—which destroys all purity and power in the soul. People lust for money and power. It is an addictive and obsessive desire to seek happiness and self-worth by indulging in things that destroy the inner powers and dignity of the soul. All clarity, sensitivity, love and truth is destroyed.
(2) ANGER— is a fire that burns oneself and others around. It is like acid that eats away at the soul. It blunts our discernment and make us react irrationally. Anger leads to destructive behaviour. Anger is active sadness.
(3) GREED—makes a person poor and empty inside, as he is always chasing desires. Greed lads to corrupt practices. A greedy person is never satisfied and always wants more and that can lead to an imbalance and exploitation of man and nature.
(4) ATTACHMENT—is the root of all suffering. It comes from a need to feel supported. Attachment keeps one entangled in the web of MINE and so it makes a person selfish, petty, narrow-minded.
(5) EGO—is the subtlest enemy of the soul. An egoist is totally disconnected from self-respect. An egoistic person is always insecure and seeks attention. He is in delusion and is influenced by praise and defamation. Thus the soul violates its true nature of PEACE, JOY, LOVE and POWER.
———Rajyogini Dadi Janki.