What do people fear?

People of each age group have their own individual fear projections, though some fears are common to all ages.

The fear of losing a loved one transcends all other fears across age groups.  This is followed after a long gap by the fear of being embarrassed in public.  Then comes the fear of pain and death, followed closely by the fear of loneliness.

Each age group has its own peculiar fears, though interestingly certain fears,Gran such as the fear of heights and creepy crawlies, is consistent across age groups.  The dread of accidents, getting assaulted and natural disasters is also consistent across age groups.

fearA fear that did not crop up in any other group except the 15-25 year olds is the fear of ghosts.  Other fears of this group had to do with not being able to achieve success at work, or not finding work that challenges their mind enough.  This was followed by the fear of not being noticed or being unable to discover the purpose of their lives.  A few interesting fears that cropped up in freewheeling discussions are the fear of depression, addiction, Black Magic, terrorists, clowns, spiders, rats, impulsiveness, people and God.

What is strange is that emotional fears such as betrayal or fear of love did not find any weight with youngsters.  It is the age group 25-35 that embroils itself in emotional turmoil and fears betrayals and rejections.  Men and women in this age group also fear growing old and dying.  Fear of failure, losing control and aging are their key dreads.

FearIn the age group 50-70, people’s fears change completely as is to be expected.  The greatest fear that incumbents of this age group have is becoming useless and dependent on others, and of illness.  Women are fearful of their children being unhappy, and men worry about losing respect in the eyes of others, leaving behind unfinished business and losing friends.  Loneliness and illness are also fears of this group.

Surprisingly, fewer fear death than one expected.  That is because people seldom think of death.  It is pain and suffering that people fear more; death is oblivion.  As one person put it, “Frankly death is not my problem.  What I fear is suffering or not living a good lifestyle in the manner I wish to.”

People have several other phobias that could be the result of several factors.  Each fear has its own origin and psychological projection, and needs to be dealt with differently.

Though leader Karl Albrecht in his newsletter BRAINSNACKS explains all fears as basically falling in five categories —— Ego Death, Separation, Loss of Autonomy, Mutilation and Extinction.

———–   vinitadawra.nangia@timesgroup.com.           


The power of your thoughts

One of the greatest regrets is not fulfilling the potential of your own mind.  It is like spending an entire lifetime craving something, only to realise too late that it was always with you, in a package you didn’t care to open.  Such is the power of the mind.  It holds within it all possibilities you can imagine.  However, you do need to peel the wrapping and get a singular focus of what you intend to do with that fearsome power, once unleashed.

power of thoughts

Life, it seems, does not follow the path of our desires and strategies as mush as that of our intentions and beliefs.  To know and accept what you desire of the future, attracts that same reality to you.  The late Dr. Dyer put it thus, ” You have to just be.  You have to let go.  You have to allow.”  That then unleashes the power of your mind and makes dreams possible.

We have heard instances of people healing themselves or psyching themselves out of a difficult patch.  Diagnosed with leukemia some years ago, Dr. Dyer claimed to have cured himself with the power of mind.  The coroner’s report reinforced there was not a trace of leukemia in his body.
There are reports of patients given a few weeks to live, going on to outlive their doctors by several years through the power of “positive thinking” on their bodies.  In one case of “multiple disorder personality”, a lady’s split personalities displayed different health symptoms.  One part of the alter ego was “diabetic” while the other was not.  The patient’s blood sugar levels climbed up or down along with her alter-ego change.
Dr. Bruce Lipton, development biologist, explains the “phenomena”.  He says that with the help of our beliefs, we can manipulate the way cells read our genes and DNA.  The mind’s function to create coherence between beliefs and reality.  If you believe something positive or negative, the mind creates that reality for you.  The boy has reserve cells that will replace or heal anything that our attention is focused on.  And so, a negative belief can hurt or kill as much as a positive emotion can heal and revive.
Medical research has shown that two-thirds of all healing is done through the “Placebo effect”  ——- mind and belief of the patient determines response to treatment rather than the actual medicine or surgery.
Interestingly, many people do not realise that “the mind can only think thoughts we allow it to”.  Thoughts are a powerful tool that travel within to our subconscious levels and influence our behaviour.  But, they also travel to the Universe and determine not just the behaviour of others towards us, but also the events that transpire.
If this is the strength of thinking, imagine the power we retain if we can direct our own thoughts and mind !!  The real challenge lies in unravelling the gift of the mind and then harnessing the force thus unleashed.  Try this.  When upset or depressed, identify the cause and tell your mind to put off thinking about the issue for some time.  Meanwhile, indulge in happy thoughts in a disciplined manner, rooting out negativity from your mind.  By the time you get to refocus on your problem, your mind will be a happier place, and the issue, less threatening.
Chinese Philosopher Lao Tzu’s four basic virtues ——– reverence for all  of life, natural sincerity, gentleness and supportiveness —– are the best way to ensure that our mind bridges the gap between our thoughts and reality.
—— vinitadawra.nangia@timesgroup.com. 

Control your attention

1858042_highA disciple and his teacher were walking through the forest.  The disciple was disturbed by the fact that his mind was in constant unrest.  He asked the teacher, “Why are most people’s minds restless and only a few possess a calm mind ?  What can one do to quieten the mind ?”
The teacher looked at the disciple, smiled and said, “I will tell you a story.  An elephant was standing and picking leaves from a tree.  A small fly came, flying and buzzing near his ear.  The elephant waved it away with his long ears.  Then the fly came again, and the elephant waved it away once more.  This was repeated several times.  Then the elephant asked the fly, “Why are you so restless and noisy ?  Why can’t you stay for a while in one place ?”  The fly answered, “I am attracted to whatever I see, hear or smell.  My five senses pull me constantly in all directions and I cannot resist them.  What is your secret /  How can you stay so calm and still ?”  The elephant stopped eating and sais, “My five senses do not rule my attention.  Whatever I do, I get immersed in it.  Now that I am eating, I am completely immersed in eating.  In this way I can enjoy my food and chew it better.  I rule and control my attention, and not the other way around.”
The teacher said, “The mind is restless and goes wherever the attention is.  CONTROL YOUR ATTENTION, and YOU CONTROL YOUR MIND.”