Love yourself

Learning to love yourself is the first critical step to take to strengthen your ‘self-worth’, ‘self-respect’ and ‘self-confidence’.
Essentially ‘loving yourself’ means knowing who you are and accepting it fully and it is said you must be able to truly love yourself before you can truly love someone else.  Not loving yourself may mean that you will have a deficit in self-confidence, which could cause you to unconsciously push people and opportunities away from you and you won’t even notice that, because you are caught up in believing you are unworthy.
Le-HeartPrincipally, your struggles might stem from the fact that at some point in your childhood ——- you were hurt ——- and by blaming yourself for being the cause of this hurt, carrying this burden consequentially shaped your personality to ensure that you would never be vulnerable enough to experience that hurt again.  Circumstances constantly change, you grow up and people around you mature, you no longer have a reason to be apprehensive.
If you don’t love yourself, you will never be able to truly experience the infinite joy of giving and receiving love.  The more you love yourself and draw on the infinite source of love from within your own heart, the more your heart expands and you begin to experience love and happiness.
Loving yourself is not about believing that you are perfect, it’s about discovering your authentic self, your passion, what gives your life meaning and purpose for “YOU”, not for someone else.  Do not be critical and judgmental about yourself, let these love yourselfthoughts pass by and leave you only with feelings of great compassion for yourself.  Love yourself NO MATTER WHAT.  On the surface, this might seem selfish, but those who fill up their own well first, have the most to give others, you only truly obtain self-love by having compassion for the self.
Look at the people and situations in your life right now.  What do you see ?  What/who do you like ? See if the people/situations you don’t like reflect something about you.  We can’t change what we are not aware of and don’t acknowledge.  Courage is not the absence of fear.  Courage is rather  the presence of fear, with the willingness to face it.  You will be amazed at how the universe steps in to support you when you follow your heart.  An excellent way to begin is to do something loving for yourself.  When you treat yourself with ‘kindness’, it makes you feel good.  The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness.  Just learn to love yourself every day, NO MATTER WHAT.
—— Jai Madaan 


RESPECT is a positive feeling of ESTEEM or DEFERENCE for a person or other entity, and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem.  Respect can be both given and / or received.  Depending on an individual’s cultural reference frame, respect can be something that IS EARNED.  Respect is often thought of as earned or built over time.
Courtesies that show respect include simple words and phrases like “thank you” — in the West, simple physical gestures like a “slight bow” —- in the East or even a “smile” or “direct eye contact”.  
(1) The biggest ingredient, in a best friend, is someone whose actions you RESPECT, and who you can truly BE YOURSELF around. 
(2) There is no RESPECT for others without HUMILITY IN ONE’S SELF 
(3) RESPECT is what WE OWE; LOVE what WE GIVE. 
(4) One of the most sincere forms of RESPECT, is actually listening to what another has to say.  (5) When you are content to be SIMPLY YOURSELF, and don’t compare or compete, everybody will RESPECT you. 

The tyranny of small minds

The universe supports the spiritual good in ordinary people over the tyranny of small minds.  A lot of spiritual good rests in ordinary people.  They are quicker to empathise and readier to help without expectation in return.  There is an existing tyranny of small minds —–people who an bully their way through, get away with bad behaviour and belittle others.  Those who are incompetent have the notion that they are the centre of the universe and that the whole world revolves around them, even though reality keeps reminding them otherwise.  Hence, they push others around, because they want their will to prevail over everything else.  In history, many dictators have suffered from the same delusion.  it is true in the daily context of daily life, where small minds exercise a stranglehold on others in offices, institutions, including religious ones.  To treat others equally, it is important to respect their dignity, worth and views, even if they contradict our own.

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Humanity has survived, not because of superior military power, but because of the good that continues to be done by good ordinary people.  We do not live in more enlightened times, as we like to believe.  A ‘use and throw’ culture thrives today, and people do not feel guilty to exploit others.  All religions speak about equality, but in practice it is very different.  We must learn to respect people working at different levels of society —-clerks, sweepers, cleaners — and show gratitude for the work they do.  Yet you find that orphans smile, the differently-abled pick themselves up again and again and the unskilled labourer works honestly and with dedication.  This shows that the universe is still supporting them, helping them survive the tyranny of small minds.

—–Janina Gomes.



RESPECT is a positive feeling of esteem or deference for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific action and conduct representative of that esteem.  RESPECT can be a special feeling of regard for the actual qualities of the one respected.  Rude conduct is usually considered to indicate a lack of RESPECT.

DISRESPECT, whereas actions that honour somebody or something indicate RESPECT.  Respect for tradition, and legitimate authority is identified by Jonathan Haidt, a professor at the New York University Stern School of Business, as one of the five fundamental MORAL VALUES, shared to a greater or lesser degree by different societies and individuals.  RESPECT can be both given and/or received.  Chivalry, by some definitions, contains the outward display of RESPECT.  RESPECT should not be confused with TOLERANCE.

Quotes on Respect : —

(1) Go up close to your friend, but do not go over to him.  We should also RESPECT the enemy in our friend. —Friedrich Nietzsche.

(2) To the living we owe RESPECT, but to the dead we owe only the truth. —Voltaire.

(3) I’m sick of just liking people.  I wish to God I could meet somebody I could RESPECT.—J. D. Salinger.

(4) Knowledge will give you power, but character RESPECT. —Bruce Lee.

(5) I want to be very close to someone I RESPECT and admire, and have somebody who feels the same way about me. —Richard Bach.

(6) A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents, will not have true RESPECT for anyone. —Billy Graham

(7) I look for these qualities and characteristics in people.  Honesty is number one, RESPECT, and absolutely the third would be loyalty. —Summer Altice.

(8) Without feelings of RESPECT, what is there to distinguish men from Beasts ? —Confucius.

(9) RESPECT …… appreciation of the separateness of the other person, of the ways in which he or she is unique.

(10) I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me…..All I ask is that you RESPECT me as a human being. —Jackie Robinson.

(11) One of the most sincere forms of RESPECT is actually listening to what another has to say. —Bryant H. McGill.

(12) There is no RESPECT for others without humility in oneself. —Henri Frederic Amiel.

(13) When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will RESPECT you. —Lao Tzu

(14) RESPECT for ourselves guides our morals, RESPECT for others guides our manners. —Laurence Sterne.

(15) Everyone should be RESPECTED as an individual, but no one idolized. —Albert Einstein.

(16) RESPECT is what we owe; love what we give.—Philip James Bailey.

(17) SELF-RESPECT is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. —Abraham Joshua Heschel.

(18) I firmly believe that RESPECT is a lot more important, and a lot greater than popularity. —Julius Erving.

(19) Being brilliant is no great feat if you RESPECT nothing. —Goethe.

(20) I never make the mistake of arguing with people for whose opinions I have no RESPECT. —Edward Gibbon.